a lot of non dysphoric trans people say that they like calling themselves trans because it gives them a label: here is a label for you. GNC. gender non conforming. use that. stop hurting people with a medical condition by appropriating our words thanks!
ok but… you don’t have to feel dysphoria to be trans?
That’s like saying you don’t have to be attracted to the same sex to be gay.
Being trans isn’t fun. The constant feelings of disgust when you see your own body, the sickening feeling when you get your period (for trans dudes), and the self-mutilation because you can’t stand your body being wrong.
I tried cutting off my breasts because of dysphoria. I broke down crying in school because of dysphoria. Being trans is not fun. It’s not trendy. It’s not cool.
I hope I don’t come off as rude, but I’m so sick of people saying dysphoria isn’t a requirement for being trans, when it’s what qualifies you to be trans in the first place.
No, it isn’t. The ‘requirement’ to be trans is to not fit into the gender you were assigned at birth.
Look, I don’t have the time to debate this right now, but you’re wrong. You have to have dysphoria to be trans.
The definition of transgender is ‘denoting or relating to a person who’s self-identity does not conform to unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender’. Sorry, there’s nothing about dysphoria in there.
My therapist’s friend went to a convention on transgender issues, and brought back a few things at the request of my therapist. One of the things was a packet on terms, one of which is on dysphoria. The DSM-V says that one must have dysphoria to medically be considered transgender.
I feel like those who say that you don’t have to be dysphoric to be trans are almost mocking those who actually have it. I honestly truly do not want to be trans. I hate it that I am. I hate it that I hate my body and that I’m seen as something that I’m not and that I want to mutilate my body.
I hate people who think they can slap on a label and call it trendy because they’re not society’s perfect fucking image of what a guy or girl should be, so they say “Oh that must mean I’m trans!” which in turn devalues the struggles of other people.
Transtrenders are the reason why my parents don’t take me seriously. My social worker at school told them the story about a girl who thought she was a trans guy because she was a tomboy but no she was a girl, and my parents think that I’m the same way. It’s also because I’m friends with a trender, who started identifying as a demiboy after I came out to them after a year of trying to figure out what the hell I was.
TL;DR, There are people out there who think that just because they don’t conform to society, they’re automatically trans, and that devalues actual trans struggles. In the medical community, one must have gender dysphoria to be trans.
